Gaslighting and standards that are double. Kalinda’s sex ended up being a shock!

Gaslighting and standards that are double. Kalinda’s sex ended up being a shock!

I as well as other individuals who called out the inclusion of Waverly with this list ended up being literally called shitty by the individual you describe as diplomatic, that was the point whenever I stopped being nice. Funny how you’re OK with that but need as any proof from me an evidence of my good will, expecting I’ll spend hours looking for and making screenshots of my words and upload it to some server just so you would say it doesn’t matter anyway because you don’t see it. Just like being called “shitty” is “diplomatic behavior” in this alt-reality.

And that’s what angers me personally the absolute most about it situation. Gaslighting and dual requirements. Calling away detailing as bisexual the type who’s most likely gay – as she even utilized the phrase to spell it out herself – can be an assault on bisexual individuals now (that’s why we talked about insinuation of biphobia in addition, but of program I bet you didn’t notice it by doing this either exactly like name-calling is diplomatic) so we should not have any difficulty because “who’s harmed by that”. Then your description this is certainly harmful because lesbian visibility is with in extremely bad state of program contributes to accusation that dealing with lesbians is hi-jacking bi-visibility week. You actually don’t see any nagging issue for the reason that?

Plus one of the very most disingenuous arguments, we attempt to forbid bi fans from seeing Wav as bi because a write-up on a site that is renowned at queer ladies is only the identical to an impression of an admirer! Except it is perhaps maybe not. When individuals see it they’ll get the feeling so it’s already formal. Which often can lead to huge stress on the authors and showrunners to stick to that even if it is perhaps not whatever they planned, or they’ll face the fan wrath. And that’s really shitty.

Because of the time you’re taking to argue that this really isn’t a grudge carried over from a bi/lesbian fandom war but really a basic argument from a person who is reasonable to any or all, i believe it’s a lot more than fair for me personally to inquire of one to straight back up which claim. You don’t desire a screenshot, just copy/paste something accusatory you’ve written re:bisexual erasure and connect to this article it is from.

I’ll come back to Laura R’s presumably antagonistic line: “I think it is fine for gay/lesbian visitors to claim her, but We additionally think it is only a little shitty for all your people when you look at the remarks to complain about other people claiming Waverly as bi.”

This comment accepts that lesbians have actually a right to claim Waverly, which hits me as pretty diplomatic. She’s maybe maybe not arguing that lesbians shouldn’t just claim her that bi females could also achieve this and that yes, it is unneeded to insistently refuse to just accept that bi females may claim this character too. When grasped in the context associated with the whole comment ‘a little shitty’ is not specially confrontational and even suggest. Also so I think it’s disingenuous to pretend that your tone escalated in response to others when in fact it was accusatory from the get-go if I were to accept that ‘a little shitty’ is a shitty word choice, Laura R.’s comment came hours after your first comment about how calling Waverly bi means that all queer women are bisexual by default. How do I be gaslighting you if the right time stamps from the reviews are demonstrably noticeable?

Again, the standard argument that this character is truly homosexual rather than bi, is it self maybe perhaps maybe not ‘a small shitty’. In reviewing the evidence presented, I’m inclined to agree to you that Waverly is almost certainly not bi. What exactly is shitty, is the fact that you’ve twisted this as a full situation of lesbian erasure plus the presumption that Heather believes we’re all bisexual by standard. There are more choices that may give an explanation for choice to add Waverly in this list:

-it’s too early to provide her any label after all -Heather has an alternate interpretation as a lesbian in the future that she can reasonably back up because the evidence doesn’t immediately point to a singular conclusion -Heather, a TV writer who may have access to promo materials from showrunners etc, has a document somewhere with a blurb in which Waverly is described as bisexual -Heather made a mistake because she is human, and may decide to remove Waverly from the list or describe her

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